What a trip I had for last week, is an unbelievable trip!!
I cant believe it, that I got cheated again!!! The first day of my trip to Sydney, were wonderful and enjoyable. I had a great dinner with my bf and friends while watching the Mardi Gras Parade, then heading on to the Mardi Gras Party. The second day was not too bad, we went to Obeslik Beach for nude sun tanning. Yes, it seems all began so well and fantastic until a dramatic change happened on the third day. My bf and I had discussed about what we looking at for our future. We talked about me coming over with his sponsor so I can save my savings from taking the Master degree and using it to help him pay off his housing loan. At the same time, I can directly look for job and share his financial loads. We also went to talk about taking family photo with each of our family, having a dog to keep, who will in charge of the household and these and that etc. It was so lovely and sweet, I truly believe and looking forward to move over with him. However, that night came by, his Vietnamese ex-bf came knocking our bedroom door and asked him out for a talk. I wondered what took him so long to be back, so when I went near to the bedroom door and overheard some of their conversation. The Vietnamese boy were raising his voice asking him whether if my bf still love him or not and asking him if it is fair to him. I felt something was really wronged, I didn't go out to confront both of them. I chose to wait and my bf came back to the room. I asked him what was happening and there wasn't any needs to hide so my bf told me the truth. The truth was very hurtful and I felt humiliated as well. My bf told me he didn't want to hurt the Vietnamese boy and also didn't want to hurt me. He also told me he and this Vietnamese boy was not over yet! He first thought committed with me for a relationship was just a joke! He didn't realise this thing could be happened, he was in the messed right now and unsure what to do.
If you put yourself as me in that situation I not sure how would you react? This was how I responded to him. I told him definitely someone got to be hurt but bottom line is who you really love and want to be with? He told me he wasn't sure! My head was WTF! "I'M NOT SURE NOW". So after we committed a relationship for a year and he told me he not sure! I felt very disappointed with him. The next moment, he told me that our relationship he thought was a joke! He didn't realise it had gone into so serious. Yes, I have went through many fuck up relationship that at that time, he was joking about us been together will be perfect. After which, I took a month to decide what he said and called him up to say lets try it out since he stated that he was over with this Vietnamese boy! Hey guys, I know I am down at that point, I can accept your pity words to me but I never ask for your pity actions to just been my partner for fun! "TRY IT OUT THIS RELATIONSHIP" doesn't mean that you are allowed to take it as a joke, you still need to commit and responsible to it till you find it doesn't really work out than call it off. However, he did not call it off but seem to take it to another level which I called taking me for granted. My world was in a mess so I told him, it was over and as a friend for 13 years he is really a screw up! How can a friend who know me for so long and know all your past broken relationships did this to me. It was really very terrible and he is the worst bf I ever had. He kept telling me he will not be like Garry or Paul, but ended up he is worst than both of them.
I told him whether he believe in KARMA and told him to track back Garry records after Garry dumped me for that Balinese bf, the Balinese bf dumped him. This is KARMA or retribution, he, Will, will get it soon. I told him I will leave tomorrow and out of his apartment as he had disappointed me and gave me humiliation as once again I lose to the young dependent boy. I really felt that I shouldn't get such a high education and working hard person, I should be like this Vietnamese boy, a pure princess.
The next morning, I called up my ex-bf, Paul, asking him how was he doing and if he seeing anyone otherwise can I stay over. He told me he was very welcoming to visit him and so I bought the flight ticket to Melbourne. Before I leave the apartment and go for my appointment with friends in Sydney before I flew to Melbourne. I prepared the dinner for, Will as I promised to cook fried rice for him before I went out for my friend appointment. So I obliged my promise as I am not like HIM! That's the last thing I had done for him. I just dropped a message and gone. THE END
THE NEW BEGINNING
I arrived Melbourne in the middle of the night 0030hr, Paul was still up and waited for me. He is still as sweet as usual with many honey words. He knew what happened and he also sorry for the disappearance which was why I had dumped him after not knowing where he was for 3 months. It was later on I found out how sad things had happened to him after I asking him about his dad. He told me his dad had passed away last year March, he quitted his job suddenly in Brisbane was to look after his dad for last couple of months before his dad gone. I having a good memory, I recalled back the date he disappeared and appeared again, they were matched. I feel sorry for him and asked him why he didn't tell me about it! He said he wasn't in a right mind as all he cares was about his dad who only told him that he got cancer and was in the last stage. His dad passed away on March 2015, which I have last contacted him to rekindle our relationship but he didn't get back to me after a few replies. In June 2015, he re-appear to me asking me back but I had already committed the relationship with Will. Will also told me not to go back as he is my bf now which I agreed. Then again, in late November 2015, Paul did text me again to get me back after he received the present which I had finally sent it out as I had bought for him in USA while we were still together. I feel that maybe I have been foolish and not choosing the right move in this game called LOVE.
The remaining of 5 days in Melbourne was great, I even caught up with my another ex-bf, James. He is sorry for hearing what Will had done to me. I also met few of Paul's friends in Melbourne and found that Paul is more happier than he is compared to the past when he lived in Brisbane. I also told him that apart of me want to get back with him, a part of me tells me that I am selfish because I got dumped by someone therefore I came back and another part of me is that I should only go for an aussie if that aussie man willing to sponsor me. So with all these messing stuff in my head, I just enjoy the time with Paul and not to think too much till I settle down.
On the other hand, while I was enjoying and relaxing in Melbourne. I also thought that after this bad relationship, maybe it was a sign from god or haven that I shouldn't move to Australia using my savings to go for my Master degree. So I decided and changed of plan, I will go buy a public housing apartment next year when I turn 35yrs old with my retirement fund. As my retirement fund are sufficient to pay off full payment for a 2 room apartment. Then once I got a public housing, I will start looking for private housing with my savings as an investment.
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